What To Do About Sexy High School Girls Having A Slumber Party
During another sleepover, T.V. took a picture of M.K. and another girl pretending to kiss each other. At a final slumber party, more pictures were taken with M.K. wearing lingerie and the other girls in pajamas. One of these pictures shows M.K. standing talking on the phone while another girl holds one of her legs up in the air, with T.V. holding a toy trident as if protruding from her crotch and pointing between M.K.'s legs. In another, T.V. is shown bent over with M.K. poking the trident between her buttocks. A third picture shows T.V. positioned behind another kneeling girl as if engaging in anal sex. In another picture, M.K. poses with money stuck into her lingerie - stripper-style.And up to facebook went the pictures; and the school got involved; and the court got involved; and now I got involved.
Important to the story, these high school girls were volleyball players. Not important to the story, but featured in every one anyway, is that they were cheerleaders. We get it. They're white.
The judge ruled that the pictures were protected under the First Amendment, which is fine, but then said this, which is weird:
I wish the case involved more important and worthwhile speech on the part of the students, but then of course a school's well-intentioned but unconstitutional punishment of that speech would be all the more regrettable.
Why wish that? If it was more important and worthwhile, we wouldn't really have a controversy. The importance of the law is in these cases that don't have worth or importance.
II.
The set up is one of free speech, but there's a different game in play.
The judge explained that it isn't true that just any old photo/speech is protected, but speech that is "intended to convey a particular message" "understood by those" who would view it. In this case: this is funny (message) to the people on my facebook page who would understand that it was funny.
The fact that adult school officials may not appreciate the approach to sexual themes the girls displayed actually supports the determination that the conduct was inherently expressive.This is where free speech gets really interesting, when it bumps against generational mores. The only thing "bad" about the speech was that the school officials didn't like it. Nothing else. Is that enough to allow the school to shut the kids down? No.
But what about the argument that the pictures affected the school or other girls by causing "divisiveness?" Isn't this kind of like harassment, or bullying, or intimidation, even if it is not as bad? Wouldn't the "pure" girls feel reluctant to play volleyball with a team of sluts?
Petty disagreements among players on a team... is utterly routine. This type of unremarkable dissension does not establish disruption with the work or discipline of the team or the school...Consider, for example. [the case in which] getting a phone call from a disgruntled parent, and evidence that a student temporarily refused to go to class and that five students missed some undetermined portion of their classes... did not rise to the level of a substantial disruption.In other words, get over it. If you don't meet these girls in school you'll meet them in college or in their 30s in Indianapolis (the whole city is horny.) The fact that you have to avoid them or deal with them or sleep with them or argue with them is mostly your problem. I sympathize, sure, and I'm happy to help, but it's still your problem. You can't change other people, even if they are wrong.
III.
But wait a second: how did the school even see the pictures? Take a moment and come up with an answer.
...a parent brought printouts of the photographs to the [Superintendent]... The parent reported that the images... were causing "divisiveness" among the girls on the volleyball team... Separately, but on the same day... the principal was contacted by a second concerned parent, one who happened to work at the school as an athletic department secretary.
The school has a problem, and it isn't high schoolers wrestling with their hormones. The school is infested with rats.
The true social implications of this case aren't about the girls' behavior, but the parents'. To what extent are they allowed to impose their values on their kids, and, separately, what is the proper structure to impose these values?
This popular reading of this case is that the school (i.e. government) doesn't have the right to reach into the private home and control the speech of students, but that evades the important cause of this case: the parents want the government to control the kids because they aren't willing to do it. See? It's not just black kids. Parents all over the U.S. have checked out, can't be bothered and anyway don't really know how to bother. How can I explain to my daughter that this is bad? I know: Tinker v. Des Moines Indep. Cmty. School Dist. Yeah. That'll show her.
The way it should have worked is that one concerned mother calls the other mother, and she opens up with, "I just want to bring something to your attention" or "Jesus, do you know what your wenchy daughter is up to?!" and they work it out and stuff gets handled, and if it doesn't it gets kicked to the fathers, who freak out on their daughters and then reluctantly agree to talk to the other father about it and settle it once and for all, and if that doesn't work they can agree to meet in the Woolworth's and Woolco parking lot and punch each other like girls. I recognize this is all quite sexist, but that's the way it should have gone down. That's the way it has always gone down.
But the parents couldn't handle this as parents, i.e. as the ultimate arbiter of a controversy, because they are not practiced at being the ultimate anything. Stripped of all power as children, and never given either power or responsibility, they drowned in freedom and looked for a practical solution to their existential crisis: everything always has a higher authority. Call the school, call the cops, call the government. The joke used to be, "hey, lady, don't make a federal case out of it!" but that's no longer a joke, it's the preferred method.
The idiocy of such parents is mind boggling, certainly, but even more compounded by the message that it sends to their own kids: higher authorities always exist for everything. Just not God. That's for stupid people.
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August 19, 2011 12:35 PM | Posted by : | Reply
This is incredibly insightful: “… they drowned in freedom …”
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August 19, 2011 12:40 PM | Posted by : | Reply
This is incredibly insightful: “… they drowned in freedom …”
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August 19, 2011 1:56 PM | Posted by : | Reply
"Just not God. That's for stupid people."
All this talk of coercive authority replacing society and culture makes you sound like a hip, all-American Theodore Dalrymple (aka Anthony Daniels)! I'm a big fan of that guy. Anyone who likes this blog should really check out his articles in The City Journal and his books! I just spent several hours reading your past posts. It is refreshing to see some real thinking. I like the phenomenological approach - i.e. what does the existence of this event/article/controversy really mean? "All that is rational is actual, and all that is actual is rational." GWFH - yo!
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August 19, 2011 2:02 PM | Posted by : | Reply
"Permissiveness is the principle of treating children as if they were adults; and the tactic of making sure they never reach that stage." Thomas Szasz
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August 19, 2011 2:11 PM | Posted by : | Reply
... Meanwhile this clique of girls has probably got at least a dozen poor souls bullied to tears and ready to hurt themselves like Phoebe Prince...
Priorities?
In loco parentis indeed.
Has Alone discussed the immature little twits, my peers in the dumbest generation in history, how we lose control when we leave the nest for college ... and everybody expects the Uni administration to supervise us and keep us out of trouble? Are the kids in other countries as also as immature the Yanks? We already know that some in countries it's hard to pry the kids out of hotel mama, but that's another story.
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August 19, 2011 2:12 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
someone downvoted that post of mine... why?
Just wanted to show a little bit of appreciation to the author of this blog, and some idiot internet justice man has to go and downvote it... I'd seriously like to downvote him in real life, with my fists.
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August 19, 2011 2:43 PM | Posted by : | Reply
They up-voted your first one 3 times though, so on the net you're good.
Thomas Szasz quote - YES - FINALLY! How come when I search "Thomas Szasz" on this blog, nothing shows up? You'd think he'd be mentioned all the time!
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August 19, 2011 3:06 PM | Posted by : | Reply
Anything but God.
Suggesting that kids not have sex until marriage, so that one can avoid the repeated emotional turmoils, avoid the VDs, avoid the unintended pregnancies, avoid the drunk dangerous ex-boyfriend who just got his driving license, and so on, is "oppression," is repressed perverts forcing their issues on others.
Instead, the forces that be are out there trying to teach our elementary school-age children the correct attitudes toward same-sex relationships, how to accept poly-whatever, and so on - as part of school curriculum. So now, you must correctly check the multiple-choice box, or you are morally incorrect.
If I have to check boxes to be moral, myself, I pick God over whomever it is that is making up the human sexuality-for-elementary-school-kids curricula.
Let's not make a Supreme Court issue out of it.
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August 19, 2011 3:44 PM | Posted by : | Reply
@Slow lane:
On what are you basing your statement that these girls are bullies? Is it because they are becoming sexual beings? They play volleyball? They're cheerleaders? You're comment is a complete non sequitur.
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August 19, 2011 4:09 PM | Posted by : | Reply
The way it should have worked is that one concerned mother calls the other mother, and she opens up with, "I just want to bring something to your attention" or "Jesus, do you know what your wenchy daughter is up to?!" and they work it out and stuff gets handled, and if it doesn't it gets kicked to the fathers, who freak out on their daughters and then reluctantly agree to talk to the other father about it and settle it once and for all, and if that doesn't work they can agree to meet in the Woolworth's and Woolco parking lot and punch each other like girls. I recognize this is all quite sexist, but that's the way it should have gone down. That's the way it has always gone down.
I think Alone is being a little whimsical here, so I'm not really yelling at him, but I hope everyone is clear that this kind of argument is total bullshit. "Responsible" and "Old-fashioned" are not synonyms. I couldn't agree more that that the parents should have handled it themselves, but doing it in a sexist way is worse than getting the school involved. They should handle it, and they should handle it like non-assholes. Is that too much to ask?
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August 19, 2011 4:13 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Huh? This issue isn't about sex ed, or elementary school kids. What are you talking about?
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August 19, 2011 9:25 PM | Posted by : | Reply
I love the snarky way the judge points out that the complaining mom--who said the photos were disrupting the team--had a daughter who was not even on the team. Was this sour grapes or a Machiavellian way to get her daughter on the team?
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August 19, 2011 11:13 PM | Posted by : | Reply
I'm considering that the girls could be doing something criminal by publishing rauchy lingerie photos of underaged girls. Isn't that the case?
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August 20, 2011 3:37 AM | Posted by : | Reply
Children are developing seeds and the parents have a responsibility to guide protect and encourage their growth. This is perhaps not easy when the internet is full of porn showing teenagers of not much older doing the same sexual things but for real. They will be largelly products of their enviroment which I think is where free speech needs to be governed by responsibility. When a child is fully grown, that is the time for free speech to totally kick in - before that the adult world needs to to get its total act together to provide a healthy nurturing enviroment.
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August 20, 2011 10:40 AM | Posted by : | Reply
I'm considering that the girls could be doing something criminal by publishing rauchy lingerie photos of underaged girls. Isn't that the case?
This would be a huge violation of their rights over their own bodies. Remember, the main ethical reason behind pro-abortion advocacy is the right of women over their bodies. And while the anti-abortion movement can concoct counter-arguments about how there's another being with rights inside them already, there's no such thing in this case.
"But aren't there laws about public nudity"? It depends. Jainist monks are allowed to wander about nude in India. Nudity is all about context. In many countries there are nude beaches for people who just enjoy spending time out in the nude. The vague proscription against public nudity is all about the right of people not to be offended or shocked; but this being Facebook, you had to click on a thumbnail at least to see the pictures.
And who could be offended by lingerie pictures of 17-year-old girls who happen to be cheerleaders and volleyball players, and thus are probably really, really hot? Particularly considering that their Facebook friends are probably all people from her school who get to ogle them on the frankly sexual tease spectacle that cheerleading is. As a non-american, cheerleaders always struck me as schools having a strippers club along the chess club and the band club. I won't condemn another culture's mores, but there's absolutely no rational reason for getting puritanical about it.
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August 20, 2011 10:50 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Children are developing seeds and the parents have a responsibility to guide protect and encourage their growth.
There's a beautiful poem about parenting by Khalil Gibran.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
You are the bows from which your children
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
At seventeen years old, these arrows have been in the air for a while now. And a girl discovering that she desires to be desired is really, really about life longing for itself.
Yes, sexting and the internet present dangers. So do manholes, AC electricity and cracks in the pavement. But these kids have grown on the internet (I'm 29 and I've grown on the internet), and if they're not fully aware of the risks involved by now, accidents will have been accidents. I do agree that it's important to protect the 10-12 years old who don't understand sexuality in full and get lured into weird cyber-bullying situations, these are 17 years old girls. Cheerleaders, who know the power their bodies wield.
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August 20, 2011 11:37 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Hey, lots of downvotes. Why? Honestly wondering.
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August 20, 2011 12:06 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
I agree each generation will be different and that this is part of lifes growth. But the adult world has a responsibility to our immature offspring to provide a healthy enviroment in wich they can form. I probably dont have as much a problem with teens exploring boundaries as part of their growth as I do the adult world failing in its responsibility to give them a healthy growing enviroment. Porn involving kids of about their age is piped into every home, their parents divorce, babies are aborted, music and tv is garbage - in other words the enviroment they form in gives the message that the adult world values convenience over its children. The arrows are in flight but going in the wrong direction - until those teenagers are matured the adult world, including schools, have a responsibility to lead by example, guide and mould.
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August 20, 2011 4:55 PM | Posted by : | Reply
So I'm stupid. That's good to know.
That is, if I'm smart enough to even know what stupid means.
Anything I could say now has undoubtedly been said about you before, Doc.
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August 20, 2011 6:29 PM | Posted by : | Reply
Freedom: Useless and downright dangerous in the wrong hands, not unlike money in the hands of the poor.
Parenting, modern: Thunder against it!
The Past: A place inhabited by sensible people. They had their faults, bien sur! but they knew how to raise children - we see the evidence in ourselves!
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August 21, 2011 11:52 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
The important thing here is that, upon reading this post, your previous opinion remains not only unchanged, but reinforced. I think that's the point of this blog.
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August 21, 2011 1:46 PM | Posted by : | Reply
I think today, in order to see level of hysteria in the parents (rats) who went into fits over this incident, one must consider roughly the same situation but with 17 year old guys from the football team. That is, suppose the pictures were of a bunch of male students simulating sex acts on each other. Nobody would be surprised at all. One of the fathers of the guys would perhaps have to tell his son "knock it off you knuckle head" and punch him in the arm a couple times.
Crude adolescent sexual humor would come as absolutely expected from teenage boys, but for similar aged girls somehow it is still assumed by the generation of the parents that the same crude adolescent sexual humor is horrifically out of place. Today's women are becoming in social and cultural situations more like men in many ways, because what had in many social contexts made the difference between women and men were indeed social. In the past, women were socially interpallated as lacking a fundamental agency that constituted being a male subject. Consequently, an act of self-assertion or agency from a women was always reframed into a question of what masculine force was really at work behind her: pop-culture, the media, peer pressure, abuse, etc... This is particularly true when the body is involved.
The male body has been traditionally conceived of as a tool for expression and work, a medium for agency wielded by the man, whereas traditional culture commodifies the female body as an object of property the integrity of which is of paramount importance. In the road between these traditional gender roles and a more egalitarian modern society there is indeed a middle ground occupied by hoards of hysterical baby-boomers and gen-Xers for whom there was some acceptance of women as having, like men, agency over themselves and their self-expression, but also yoked with the vestigial responsibility to use that agency with the imperative to maintain the traditional integrity of their bodies as objects that play integral roles in social relationships and social structure.
Being progressive but with one foot firmly rooted, often with guilt and anxiety, in the past has made those in this interstitial period between traditional gender roles and egalitarianism hysterical in a fundamentally psychoanalytic fashion: they unconsciously find themselves nervously asking themselves "what does it mean to be a man/woman?". And to answer this question, they attempt to use their bodies. These interstitial generations are caught in a paranoiac vacillation between two kinds of societies, and these vacillations are particularly disorienting for women of these generations who want to move into the future, gaining agency as a full social subject, but have trouble letting go of the comforting infantilism of the traditional female role: perpetually being provided for, protected, and free of making difficult decisions.
The relevance of this incident, the reason that it provokes such hysteria, amongst particularly mothers, is precisely because it is a group of teenage girls acting with the agency (obnoxious and adolescent as it is) of teenage guys. There is most certainly a resentment aroused in the generation of suburbanite, middling class, mothers who had seen the sexual revolution of the 60's as a form of empowerment that could only serve to structure their fantasy space (ideological space, not space of fantasizing). The injunction of this interstitial culture being "you are free to think of yourselves freely and autonomously like men, but in return you must freely choose to uphold tradition and fulfill your roles as mothers".
Moreover, in order to defend themselves from this traumatic realization of agency in the teenage girls, the mothers undoubtedly will or have reframed the incident to ask the question of what male agency was really at work: pop-culture, the internet, sexualization in media, etc... They will attempt to convince the girls that they are victims of one or another male influence. As a matter of fact, the above accounts for much of the issues of gender today, and I think that the young people of today are in certain respects past the issue of gender is for the older generations the very issue. For the younger generations, this incident is just stupid obnoxious adolescent hackneyed humor, and I think the young people of today see it with boredom and apathy. Indeed, therefore, this is an issue with the parents, the generation of rats who must fuss up an issue where one does not exist, until one in fact does exist.
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August 21, 2011 3:25 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
That is, suppose the pictures were of a bunch of male students simulating sex acts on each other. Nobody would be surprised at all.
Well I'm surprised to learn that it's common for guys to do such a faggy prank. We're not talking about The Navy.
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August 21, 2011 6:06 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
"If I have to check boxes to be moral, myself, I pick God..."
The point of God being for stupid people is that it's the same moral laziness as deferring to the school system you seem to despise. It's not "moral" if you're just doing as you're told. You can be as intolerant as you like of whatever lifestyles make your brothers and sisters happy, but it's hoped you'll defend your bigotry with some cogency and self-awareness, instead of abdicating the responsibility of thought to your most comfortable authority figure.
"God" is the explanation you were given as a child for the complexities of a dizzying world, and maybe it's a manageable moral model for adolescent cheerleader brains which aren't developed enough to entertain abstraction or internalize contradictions, but it's just as vacuous as the "zero-tolerance" moral absolutism of the sexless schoolmarms who brought this case to federal court. Not to mention, a more fruitful worldview might be the one of critical inquiry [that one that understands "statistics"] that can demonstrate the abstinence-only indoctrination you advocate to actually increase teen pregnancies and the transmission of disease. Seriously, science says you're ruining children's lives. You don't have to be a transsexual heroin junkie to question your superstitions.
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August 22, 2011 12:09 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
You don't have to be a transsexual heroin junkie to question your superstitions.
No, but it sure helps!
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August 22, 2011 5:24 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
the last psychiatrist website is about a novel and kinda unique take on things, while your post is about the same old trite bullshit about the unfairness of society on girls who acts like male, blah blah traditional gender roles, blah blah blah.
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August 22, 2011 2:08 PM | Posted by : | Reply
I'm just glad that my adolescents are out of high school without a "federal case." I have about a thousand stories that would be akin to this. I wonder why a judge would not throw this case out without a hearing.
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August 22, 2011 3:44 PM | Posted by : | Reply
It's not "moral" if you're just doing as you're told.
Yes it is, because you have to choose that path. When there are so many other choices, and so much acceptance of disordered conduct, it is truly countercultural to heed religious teaching.
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August 22, 2011 5:18 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
What in particular did you disagree with so much that you decided not to criticize my post, but declare it altogether unfit for the tone of the whole website? Otherwise, I would be force to interpret your response as a knee-jerk reactionary response to something that you read vaguely as too Left for you. I certainly did not simply make a normative declaration of unfairness and assert its unjustness. Your comment sounds like the gut response of a paranoid resentful suburbanite who has convinced himself through folk reasoning that gender equality is part of a great persecutory conspiracy aimed at robbing while males of the American Dream.
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August 23, 2011 6:49 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
holy shit you got such a clear and detailed summary of a whole person identity, motives, nationality and beliefs from a mere four line post.
Talk about paranoid and seeing things ;)
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August 23, 2011 12:08 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
You only wrote a four line post, so I had to speculate a bit given your tone, which seemed to speak volumes about you. Of course I see things, but I am interested in who you really are in spite of my characterization, which was not mind you who I said you were but who you sounded like. And, that is what your four lines did sound like. If it sounds like a duck, it might be a duck, but assuredly it does indeed sound like one.
I am curious. What is going on with you? Write more than four lines. Write about yourself. Write about my post that you either didn't read or didn't understand. The thesis of the post was that the mothers were hystericized by being caught in an interstitial period of late 20th century cultural shifts. What are your thoughts?
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August 23, 2011 12:38 PM | Posted by : | Reply
maybe the parents were getting all het up because the girls are actually gay. I mean, it's one thing if hetero girls are parodying porn mag shoots, but it's completely different if the hot volleyball lesbians are engaging in group play, right?
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August 23, 2011 5:25 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Thanks, Joyce, this relly helps!
All of what you say is either off-base or untrue, so obviously I have had a period of dementia somewhere along the line.
Thanks for the tip on "critical inquiry." I have read a pretty good amt of marxism at this point, but maybe I will go read some more.
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August 24, 2011 11:15 AM | Posted by : | Reply
You missed an important part of the story, I think: the parents didn't go to a higher authority simply because it was there. They went because it's the authority directly responsible for their identity. The parents aren't "Parents", they're "Parents of Volleyball Players". So the danger of the whole situation wasn't, "Our daughters aren't getting along," it was, "Our volleyball playing daughters aren't getting along." So they took the problem to the volleyball playing authority--in this case, the school.
When daughters fight, parents talk to the daughter's authority. When volleyball players fight, volleyball parents talk to the volleyball authority.
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August 24, 2011 12:46 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Hexxx whatever, I have to say that my first post may have sounded more rude than intended.. it was supposed to be a little bit derisive, but not so much, and the term "trite bullshit" sounded too harsh.
English is not my first language, and sometimes I use words on the Internet without really having a sense of how they might sound to other people.
Having said that, it's not that I disagree with any of what you have written, it's just that I think it's trite, not original at all, and part of the collective narrative that everyone already knows. Maybe not everyone agrees with that narrative (though I would bet that most people do) but everyone already knows it. Everybody knows society treats women and men differently, that there are traditional gender roles and what not. Everybody knows that already (even though an individual may agree or not agree on enforcing traditional sex roles and so on).
The author of this website goes past that level of analysis to offer something fresh and unique, and I thought your post just repeated something that everybody already gives for granted.
It's like replying to a mad men analysis with a unique take by retelling the basic plot and what happened in the sixties and how society was evil to black and women to them back then... we already know all that, you can skip it.
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September 12, 2011 12:37 PM | Posted by : | Reply
Because most of the people think doing it the sexist way is better than involving the authorities of course!
I agree they should find a non-sexist way of doing it too.
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September 12, 2011 12:37 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Because most of the people think doing it the sexist way is better than involving the authorities of course!
I agree they should find a non-sexist way of doing it too.
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September 16, 2011 2:44 PM | Posted by : | Reply
i love the thomas szasz quote that someone posted....parenting seems more and more to be an exercise to self-reflectioon rather than a focus on equipping young people to manage in a complex world.
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December 28, 2011 11:39 PM | Posted by : | Reply
"But the parents couldn't handle this as parents"
You know why, don't you? The parents themselves are slutty ass hos!
Divorced, or never even married, single parents more concerned about dating random strangers and finding their "soul mate" than they are about their own kids.
Welcome to America. We are our own worst enemy.
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December 7, 2012 2:34 PM | Posted by : | Reply
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December 18, 2012 10:49 AM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
You can take that further: the parents didn't go to a higher authority - they complained to a servant agency, then handed down the chore of cleanup.
Rather than do housework or something else productive, I wrote up a list of possibilities:
-- Last's - juvenile or infantile - the dobbing parents are socially immature and underdeveloped. Their starting point is the higher authority because they either i. know they're not adequate and defer upwards rather than 'upskill' or grow a spine, or ii. they never even got as far as knowing they could or should handle these things by themselves.
-- JM's - which I read 2 ways, either as team players or samaritans - i. it's not that the parents weren't up for it, it's that they had a problem with goings-on in this particular group with this particular identity and this particular internal culture. They saw themselves as well-integrated social participants who addressed a problem within the power framework as they understood it; or ii. the parents considered themselves as witnesses to a worrying circumstance, and in good faith reported it to the affected/responsible body.
-- Plus me(!) - duchesses or saboteurs (ie tool users(: i. The dobbing parents considered the school to be in service to them. Does a Lady dispose of a dead mouse? Hell no. She calls for the maid. Do I take care of my household rubbish? Hell no again. I put it in the bin and expect the Council to get rid of it every Friday. (On some matters the Council is an agent of darkness, but when it comes to domestic waste disposal the council is my servant.) These days everyone thinks they can be King, and it's good to be the King. Are some kids you know being dumb and randy on the internet? Call the school and let them know they have a problem to attend to - what are they there for otherwise?; or ii. maybe getting the school involved was the best bang-for-buck in spreading embarrassment to those other snippety mums, and who cares about lifelong consequences for the girls involved as long as the dobbers had fun sticking in the boot.
I don't know how things go down in the US, but I doubt some mum grassed out to the school believing it was the right thing to do. And for my n=1, I reckon an arrogant "I'm sure I've got someone to do this for me" is the culprit, even over immature parenting.
But yeah, even if their motivations were sound, the adult starting point was still to have a quiet word to the other parent/s before taking it elsewhere.
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March 19, 2013 5:18 AM | Posted by : | Reply
This really is a very nice and helpful post, thank you very much.
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January 3, 2014 11:49 PM | Posted, in reply to , by : | Reply
Hopefully some people still read beyond the suggested 4-5 old posts.
Ariel,
You think the parents are somehow underdeveloped. I disagree.
Mom is not going to go to dad for help, because she specifically chose a bumbling herb for a husband. She is -in principle- apathetic where dominance comes from.
Dad is going to do what mommy says.
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